Forgotten: How To Be A Gentleman?

Forgotten: How To Be A Gentleman?

What I see out there of this is so many apparently smug men actually with nothing about which to be smug, and I cringe in embarrassment as a man reading the garbage such men post...

Twenty Years Ago Today

Twenty Years Ago Today

One never knows what lies around the next corner and what trials may land upon us. Regardless I hope and pray now, today, that there shall be at least another twenty years more, which is, I suppose, overwhelming evidence of happiness in a marriage.

“The woman who is your world”

“The woman who is your world”

My mind wanders while she's in transit - especially if it is to somewhere we don't know very well; and Berlin is one of those places we don't.

Back To Bach

Back To Bach

Another weekend is upon us. The wider world out there is, as always, full of happenings none of us probably can have the slightest impact upon. However, here is information you may perhaps truly find personally useful, from Pacific Standard Magazine: ...newly published research ... finds women perceive men as more attractive and desirable when [...]

“Just going out for a drink with her, dear”

“Just going out for a drink with her, dear”

As a romantic fiction author, I could not resist addressing this here. This NYT article is primarily about a survey regarding attitudes when it comes to people interacting and socializing with those of the opposite sex . . . who aren't their spouses: It being Twitter there as well, quickly matters moved into snarks about [...]

Viewed From This England

Viewed From This England

We've been watching the political-melodrama U.S. TV series Madam Secretary. But you don't need to know the details of the program to get this post. I thought I'd use it as a basis for some "fun" today - it's Friday - mostly due to the episode we just saw and because, as you probably know, [...]

The Widower

The Widower

Yesterday, I was having what I had thought was an innocuous FaceTime with my father. There was our usual current discussion of the weather in his northeast Pennsylvania, and any snow - including what is up at our house in the Catskills. There was also the required exchange about what the new U.S. president is [...]

Day Of Rest

Day Of Rest

I read none of my Conventions manuscript yesterday beyond glimpsing its cover on Instagram and here in my post about it. I'm taking a few days away from the late 1700s to clear my head before I delve into correcting it from the beginning. I think this is probably the first time in months I [...]

One Girl At The Reception

One Girl At The Reception

We went to a family funeral on Thursday in north London. A couple of weeks ago, my wife's uncle-in-law died at home in his sleep at 85. While there is naturally sadness, at the catering hall gathering that followed the church service and cemetery his son reminded me (perhaps he was also telling himself this [...]

Today’s Advice Column

Today’s Advice Column

As you probably know, I write fiction set in the late 20th century and - soon to come, hopefully - the late 18th century. I think I can do so in part because I feel I've gleaned a few basic insights over the years about people and relationships. We all do learn more as we [...]

Authors: A Troubled Bunch?

Authors: A Troubled Bunch?

Have you seen this from the other day?: This sentence especially grabbed my attention, with his ex-wife claiming: Sir Salman Rushdie needed consoling every year he did not win the Nobel Prize for literature.... As in any relationship, only they know fully what went on between them. If what she says is accurate, he has [...]

Wanted: Their “Effortless Sophistication”

Wanted: Their “Effortless Sophistication”

Last night, as we sat about three feet apart, my wife forwarded me this Telegraph article, messaging: "Amuse" me? Actually, I took cover. It's about a matchmaking company for the "well-to-do." No, she was not hinting about what she had in mind for herself. (I hope.) Rather, it was because of a major assertion made [...]

“So who would you live with if I died tomorrow?”

“So who would you live with if I died tomorrow?”

My octogenarian in-laws have been thinking more than ever about what happens after one of them dies. After dinner last night, around the table a discussion arose among the four of us about their London house, and where would the survivor live, etc. My father now living without my mother in the same house they [...]

My Mom And Me

My Mom And Me

There was a time we rummaged through shoeboxes and dusty albums and stumbled on nearly forgotten photographs of deceased loved ones. No longer. Nowadays, we find hordes of digital camera photos that had once been uploaded onto now barely used PCs: 2002. My God, was I ever really that young? But we all think that [...]

We Don’t Fight, We Write

We Don’t Fight, We Write

Pardon a brief rant. I just want to get this off my chest. I don't do this on here very often.... To a slug "relation" (by marriage): Last year, I lost someone I loved. You think I give a rat's you know what about you at all? And if you actually imagine you are ever [...]