Recently it was reported in the Washington Post that research has demonstrated that spending time scrolling social media is harmful to your life outlook. For teens, it is evidently even worse than for adults: seeing their friends get lots more “likes,” while they get fewer, can be crushing to their sense of self-worth.
Indeed, scrolling social media can definitely be emotionally wearing:
The above is an example. It is from the Voice of America (VOA) Instagram feed. I get lots of news from that site.
We are now barraged with information in ways unlike ever before. Our parents and grandparents did not grow up overwhelmed by imagery personalized from all corners of the globe. Especially seeing a regular run of depressing images – a vehicle wrecked in Peru is rather outside of anyone’s ability to influence – can, unsurprisingly, be a mental drag.
Stories such as that pop up in my Instagram timeline without warning among others posted by social media acquaintances and “in person” friends sharing various photos. Other interests of mine, such as favorite sports teams, naturally also appear unexpectedly. Here is a taster of what I may see if I scroll my Instagram…
Wishing my dear friend Carmen @adamoucarmen a very happy birthday today! May your day and the whole year through be filled with love, joy and happiness! Sending you the biggest hug ever and see you soon for a proper catch up! #happbirthday #bighug #friendship #friends #celebrate #birthdaytea #birthdaygirl #birthday #love #happytimes
How’s everybody doing? Hope all of you started off 2018 on the right foot 👟 Who started with this month’s bookclub read, Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides? It’s an amazing story and I find myself getting more captivated by it with every page but more on that later… —— Today, I want to talk about Hollow City. Ms. Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children was one of the best books I read last year ❤️📖 I had mixed feelings about its sequel, Hollow City, but I also learned a lot of lessons from it on writing book series. 📝🧐 Read my full review of the book on my blog (link in bio) —— Have a great first week of the year and happy reading! 📖🤓
It’s 3rd and goal. Murakami, Thompson, Steinbeck, Gaiman, Vonnegut, Leonard, and Martin are looking to fake the handoff and drop back for a game winning pass. The playbook they all share consists of the works from their literary careers, and I’d like to tackle as many of these bound treasures as possible. It won’t be possible to do completely in the span of a year, but my goal is to dig deep and get through as many of them as I can. I’d like to try and throw a list scheme together and maybe switch authors right down the line after each read and then continue the order back over from the start…but I’ve noticed that when I find a truly captivating mover and shaker from any one of them, all I want to do when the back cover closes is to dive right into another one of their works. At the same time, I’d still like to read new material and discover new authors. Suggestions are more than welcome!
The New Year is slowly approaching and with a new haircut 💇 I'm ready for it. As every year I'm having New Year's resolutions 😄. I will cut on sugar in my life 🍫 and definitively do more sport 🏋. On the other side, relax and sleep 😴 more. I'm wishing that you all have a wonderful night 🌃 and a lot of fireworks 🎆. To all of you, already in 2018, Happy New Year!
When a blizzard is poppin' off but so are bottles. #nothingcanstopme . . . . . . . . . . . . . #snowday #snow #nj #njblogger #winter #freezing #nyc #nycblogger #njblogger #otkboots #winterweather #winterfashion #cold #fashion #fashionista #blogger #bloggerbabe #ootd #ootdsubmit #fashiongram #fashionpost #instafashion #instadaily #l4l #love #flashesofdelight #style #streetstyle #lifestyle
You get the chaotic picture. Uh, no pun intended. (And note: I do NOT know the Pope or Hugh Jackman personally.) Your own Insta or Facebook timelines probably look much the same.
The Hertfordshire (about 30 mins north of London) sky earlier, just before sunset.🇬🇧 (The morning rain passed thru.) Stay warm NY/NJ/CT.🇺🇸 What a snowstorm we’re seeing over there!❄️⛄️🌬😱 . #travel #sky #clouds #afternoon #Hertfordshire #England #weather #snowstorm #bombcyclone #usa #winter #photo #photography #author #authorsofinstagram #writersofinstagram #writers #expats #expatlife
If you are going to use social media, it is suggested also that you be genuinely “social” not just a “liker.” Leave useful comments and engage: it becomes less of a spectator experience and a more personal and perhaps even more satisfying activity. I know I enjoy reading genuine comments and always try to reply to them.
As I have written before – and especially if you happen to be a teen or young twenty-something – social media is NOT the center of everything and should NOT define your view of yourself. Much that you see is contrived, shot carefully and “unreal.” Do not compare yourself and your own life to much – even most – that you see on it.
Social media is for enjoyment and gleaning insights on this or that – from news to food to holidays to fashion to books and so on. But remember what you see overall is transitory as well as often illusory. The poster you follow and admire today may not even be there tomorrow; he or she could just delete everything and disappear.
That said, a book – not to sound self-serving😉 – in comparison is a permanent companion. It will not vanish, or judge you, or unfollow you. It will be there for you whenever you want it – and we learn a great deal from books, too.📚
Have a good weekend, wherever you are in the world.😊